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I read almost anything that I could lay my hands on including Archies,
Denis the menace comics and Enid Blyton novels. Believe me when I
tell you the amount of learning on building and shaping of your character
you can get there in very simple understandable language is amazing.
The philosophical statements of Denis or the attitude of Jughead
projects a strength of character which needs to be emulated. Here's
where we come to this fortnights lead article. As a trainer I have understood that it is more important to
develop character than to develop techniques. Continuing our series of articles on success I
have tried to delve into the character issue and what an important role
they play in shaping our success.
While the central
theme of this e-zine is training for success, I have tried to keep the
format and content very simple without too much of professional training
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Powerful Quotes To Motivate
not what is happening to you now or what has happened in your past that
determines who you become. Rather, it's your decision to focus on,
what things mean to you, and what you're going to do about them will
determine your ultimate destiny."
will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it, we go
more important than knowledge."
"I like the
dreams of the future better than the history of the past."
frankness from those who like us. Frankness from others is called
ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what
we have already done."
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
you want to succeed, double your failure rate."
Thomas J Watson, founder of IBM
"Argue for your
limitations and, sure enough, theyre yours."
"We have to
learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap
of being our worst enemies."
"Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes."
Norman Vincent Peale
Natural Laws of Success
Jim Rohn wrote in his book The Five Major Pieces To
The Life Puzzle, it is by an intricate design of nature that success is a
condition that must be attracted and not pursued. We achieve rewards
and we make progress not by our intense pursuits, but by what we become, for it
is what we are that finally determines the result we attract. "To have
more we must first become more" is the essence of his personal development
Today when the lopsided model of personal
development where the stress is more on techniques, the words of wisdom culled
from all that have been written about success and happiness from times immemorial brings into stark
contrast everything that is wrong in the personal development philosophy.
The quick fixes
taught today by innumerable institutions reflects the growing confusion about
Personality Development aimed at symptoms than any attempt on cause. It is no wonder that in the
knowledge millennium when knowledge is said to be doubling every eighteen month
we see more unhappiness and frustration than light of knowledge and wisdom.
The natural law is that of character ethic.
What we are intrinsically. Success and happiness is achieved by becoming
more, more of love, honesty, justice, courage, integrity, humaneness, feelings for
the community, public
good and for the fellow human. What we see instead is a stress on the outer
personality, public image, public speaking, outward cheerfulness and pretended
positive attitudes. Whatever we might be inside, we are taught
to put a facade of manners, looks, gestures and language.
Imagine a situation where you meet an
unreasonable customer and you put out the most positive outward expressions while
you are fuming inside. It does not communicate the best of sincerity and
you lose the customer anyway. On the other hand if we exercise the
character ethic of being good to a fellow human being, we may try to understand
his unreasonableness and show more sympathy towards his views. When the
inside feeling is one of sympathy we may even point out his unreasonableness
without rancor or animosity and customer is more likely to understand our
viewpoint. The character ethic being strong there would be certain
equanimity and pleasantness and the customer has to respond positively to the natural
and open negotiation with him.
It is not that techniques are not important.
The various personal skills and techniques does have its value in bringing a
system and projection of our natural personal traits more effectively. What ever our
character should naturally
reflect in every act of ours. Whereas being focused only on techniques
will be seen as manipulative and whatever gains, will be short term and
eventually be seen as failures.
Emerson has brilliantly explained the
character ethic "What you are shouts so loudly in my ears that I cannot hear
what you say."
To be continued...
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The King With Four Wives
Once upon a time....there was a rich king who had four wives. He loved the
fourth wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the
finest delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the third
wife very much and showed her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared
that one day she would leave him for another.
He also loved the second wife. She was his confidante and was always kind,
considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could
confide in her to help him get through the difficult times.
The King's first wife was a very loyal partner and had made great
contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love
the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of
her. One day, the King fell ill and he knew that his time was short.
Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with
the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will
you follow me and keep me company?"
"No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. Her
answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.
The sad King asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm
dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I am going to
remarry!" His heart sank and turned cold.
He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've
always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"
"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the
very most, I can only send you to your grave." Her answer came like a bolt of
thunder and the King was devastated.
Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where
The King looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, because
she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the King said, "I should have
taken better care of you when I had the chance!"
In Truth, we all have four wives in our lives:
Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in
making it look great, it'll leave us when we die.
Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die it will all
go to others.
Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been
there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.
Our 1st wife is our Soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and
pleasures of the ego. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us
wherever we go. So cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now! It is your
greatest gift to offer the world.
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