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Newsletter 17




Born To Win

Newsletter 17



Editors Note

Powerful Quotes to Motivate

Natural Laws of Success

Free Resources

Important Announcement

Just Relax





Interesting contributions on motivation and success, training articles on soft skills and anything else you think might be useful for personal and career success



Editors Note

I read almost anything that I could lay my hands on including Archies, Denis the menace comics and Enid Blyton novels.  Believe me when I tell you the amount of learning on building and shaping of your character you can get there in very simple understandable language is amazing.  The philosophical statements of Denis or the attitude of  Jughead projects a strength of character which needs to be emulated.  Here's where we come to this fortnights lead article.  As a trainer I have understood that it is more important to develop character than to develop techniques.  Continuing our series of articles on success I have tried to delve into the character issue and what an important role they play in shaping our success.

While the central theme of this e-zine is training for success, I have tried to keep the format and content very simple without too much of professional training models and theories.  Please use our Born to Win yahoo groups for posting professional training inputs.  Do give me your feedback on this issue. 

So friends enjoy  being Born To Win and keep writing...

...and win and make everyone a winner


R.G. Srinivasan


Powerful Quotes To Motivate

"It's not what is happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become.  Rather, it's your decision to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you're  going to do about them will determine your ultimate destiny."

Anthony Robbins

 "Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it, we go nowhere." 

Carl Sagen

"Imagination is more important than knowledge."

 Albert Einstein

"I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past."

 Thomas Jefferson

"We appreciate frankness from those who like us. Frankness from others is called insolence."

 Andre Maurois

"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done."

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"If you want to succeed, double your failure rate."
Thomas J Watson,  founder of IBM

"Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, theyre yours."

Richard Bach

 "We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our worst enemies."

"Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes."
Norman Vincent Peale


Natural Laws of Success

Jim Rohn wrote in his book The Five Major Pieces To The Life Puzzle,  it is by an intricate design of nature that success is a condition  that must be attracted and not pursued.  We achieve rewards and we make progress not by our intense pursuits, but by what we become, for it is what we are that finally determines the result we attract.  "To have more we must first become more" is the essence of his personal development philosophy. 

Today when the lopsided model of personal development where the stress is more on techniques, the words of wisdom culled from all that have been written about success and happiness from times immemorial brings into stark contrast everything that is wrong in the personal development philosophy.  The quick fixes taught today by innumerable institutions reflects the growing confusion about Personality Development aimed at symptoms than any attempt on cause.  It is no wonder that in the knowledge millennium when knowledge is said to be doubling every eighteen month we see more unhappiness and frustration than light of knowledge and wisdom.

The natural law is that of character ethic.  What we are intrinsically.  Success and happiness is achieved by becoming more, more of love, honesty, justice, courage, integrity, humaneness, feelings for the community, public good and for the fellow human.  What we see instead is a stress on the outer personality, public image, public speaking, outward cheerfulness and pretended positive attitudes.    Whatever we might be inside, we are taught to put a facade of manners, looks, gestures and language. 

Imagine a situation where you meet an unreasonable customer and you put out the most positive outward expressions while you are fuming inside.  It does not communicate the best of sincerity and you lose the customer anyway.  On the other hand if we exercise the character ethic of being good to a fellow human being, we may try to understand his unreasonableness and show more sympathy towards his views.  When the inside feeling is one of sympathy we may even point out his unreasonableness without rancor or animosity and customer is more likely to understand our viewpoint.  The character ethic being strong there would be certain equanimity and pleasantness and the customer has to respond positively to the natural and open negotiation with him.

It is not that techniques are not important.  The various personal skills and techniques does have its value in bringing a system and projection of our natural personal traits more effectively.    What ever our character should naturally reflect in every act of ours.  Whereas being focused only on techniques will be seen as manipulative and whatever gains, will be short term and eventually be seen as failures.

Emerson  has brilliantly explained the character ethic "What you are shouts so loudly in my ears that I cannot hear what you say."    

To be continued...


Free Resources

You can now get regular e-books, free advice from our members on various issues regarding your career or life, and participate in social causes and charities.  Don't forget to download your copy of the 'Goals Builder Workbook'  and other success e-books from the Files section of Born To Win yahoo group. Just join the Born to Win Yahoo Groups by clicking on



Important Announcement

We often feel the need to seek help on sensitive issues like our personal motivation and success.  It could be a bad situation with the career or small failures which is upsetting us or as happens frequently we feel stuck up without any movement forward.  These are the times you feel the need for special advice.  The new 'Success Queries' column is a effort for the reader  by the reader to find solutions to such issues. 

Success Queries

This column awaits your participation


Just Relax

The King With Four Wives

   Once upon a time....there was a rich king who had four wives. He loved the fourth wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best. He also loved the third wife very much and showed her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.

    He also loved the second wife. She was his confidante and was always kind, considerate and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her to help him get through the difficult times.

   The King's first wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love the first wife and although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her. One day, the King fell ill and he knew that his time was short.

  Thus, he asked the 4th wife, "I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"

"No way!" replied the 4th wife and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

  The sad King asked the 3rd wife, "I have loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?"

"No!" replied the 3rd wife. "Life is too good! When you die, I am going to remarry!" His heart sank and turned cold.

  He then asked the 2nd wife, "I have always turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?"

"I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!" replied the 2nd wife. "At the very most, I can only send you to your grave." Her answer came like a bolt of thunder and the King was devastated.

  Then a voice called out: "I'll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go."

The King looked up and there was his first wife. She was so skinny, because she suffered from malnutrition. Greatly grieved, the King said, "I should have taken better care of you when I had the chance!"

  In Truth, we all have four wives in our lives:

Our 4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look great, it'll leave us when we die.

  Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status and wealth. When we die it will all go to others.

  Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

  Our 1st wife is our Soul, often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the ego. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go. So cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now! It is your greatest gift to offer the world.


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